How to Win Friends & Influence People Book Summary

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How to Win Friends and Influence People is the most popular book about the self-improvement. Over 15 million copies of the book sold around the world. The book is about the many principals that can help to create the inbound generation system. Here is the summary of the book which can help you to understand major principles defined in the book.

Firstly let’s take an insight look of the book. Here are some things that book offer.

  1. The idea about to explore your thoughts, get out from the mental burden, set new visions and ambitions.
  2. Book provides you help and enables you to make new friends.
  3. It also helps to increase your popularity.
  4. Book will show you with your thought process you can win the heart of people.
  5. It will also help you to increase your ability and influence.
  6. Promote you to get more client, partners, and customers.
  7. It will help you to increase your receiving power.
  8. Helps in to make you better executive or better salesman.
  9. Helps you to keep the human contact smooth and well managed also encourage to handle the problems efficiently.
  10. Make you better speaker.
  11. The book will help you to apply principals of psychology in your daily routine. It helps you to have the accessibility of the principle by making them easy to apply.
  12. Helps to increase the enthusiasm level between the associates.

Part: 1

Now let’s take a look at the summary of the book. This is the first part of the book and focuses on the various techniques to handle the people. It has total three chapters.

  • As the book content, criticism is ineffective and it can make the person defensive and let him justify in every situation.
  • Criticism can be dangerous as it can hurt a person by wounding his pride.
  • Instead of complaining about the people better to understand why they want to do and why they want to do this.
  • So many great leaders do the same one of them was the Abraham Lincoln. He always focused on the point not to criticize anyone.

Chapter 2 of book stressed on that there is only one way to make any person do something. This can describe as letting them do whatever they want to do.

  • People always hungry for the appreciation. Better to appreciate work of other
  • Encouragement and appreciation is the key to productivity.
  • Always be positive and appreciate good work avoid to discover the unnecessary faults.
  • Don’t tell people they are doing well. Better to define what they are doing well. It is always good to discuss things and let the people know that you keep an eye on their upright work.

Chapter 3 focuses on that you should think about the people first. Give weight to their thoughts. Convince the people how a particular task can benefit them. The first and foremost motive is you should understand the perspective of other people.

 

Part: 2

Chapter 1 represents that if you are genuine with the people you can make friends in just two months. People try to become the good friend even after two years gap. However, if you are good with the people you do not have to wait so long. Usually, people are interested in other when they are actually interested in them. It is a two-way process.

Always say hello to the people in a way that, they should know you are pleased to talk with them. Chapter 2 focuses on the actions, It’s a saying action speaks louder than words. Always spread positivity to the people around you. It is just not you can keep the things up by your physical presence. Even your positivity can be seen through the phone conversation. You need to have a good time with the people if you want to have a good time with them. If you are not happy just pretend to be happy. In some time it will definitely make you happy. Action and feeling always go together. You can act cheerfully and by default, your actions also reflect the feelings.

In chapter 3 of the book states, it is always important to remember the name of the people. In case you do not remember the name people are not going to build the strong relationship with you. Next chapter defines the benefits of becoming a good conversationalist.

Part: 3

Part 3 is all about to avoid the arguments. Most of the people do this mistake and hurt so many people. You should not indulge in the arguments. A misunderstanding cannot be rectified with the argument. Better to avoid them to keep the relationship healthy. You always need to control your temper. Always listen first and give chance to the people to explain their points.

Part: 4

This part of the book is focused on how to become a good leader. Many people follow the criticism. They use to start the sentence with letter but and end up stating a criticizing statement. Here you need to consider your own mistake first before blaming another person for the mistakes. No one likes to take orders from other. Just always talk in a way to explain your viewpoint not to give the order to someone.

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A Man Called Ove: Book Review

Novels written from the heart go further. It can be said that they are written alone, because there are no more limitations for the writer than his desire to keep writing good novels. This is well known by the Swedish writer Fredrik Backman, who brought to the world this interesting story of an old man a little grouchy and face with few friends.

It is from those books that you will not believe that you will like it so much until you start reading it. Its pages are full of literary magic.

Fredrik Backman is a young man who was born in Sweden 36 years ago. His greatest success so far is this wonderful book he wrote in 2012, and which it was produced a film of the same name in the year 2015, very successful and with good reviews by film experts.

Introduction

Backman takes us into a fictional world where Ove is the protagonist. An elderly widow of 59 years old with much bad temper and which lives in the outskirts of some town in Sweden. He believes that he has the mission to maintain and put order in his neighborhood, which will bring problems with his neighbors, who call him grouchy (not in vain).

Ove is an old man who spends all day grunting and criticizing other people for no apparent reason. He believes that everyone wants to hurt him within his egocentric world, because he does not know the compassion towards the others and judges before knowing them well.

Ove believes that he knows everything and that nobody knows more than he in the world, he looks over his shoulder to others, particularly the young, and demands respect without respecting anyone around him.

But do not let that all these defects make you a bad idea of Ove, because the fact that it is churlish, does not mean that it is not a person of respectable principles, very strict and acceptable for the society. No one turns to think about what may or may not be happening Ove. In addition, Ove’s attitude is not given by his appearance or by a smiling face, because for him the treasure of a person lies in its interior and not in the exterior.

Ove is driven in the outside world by his moved inner world that would make cry to the most hated personage of the surroundings. Inside Ove there are disappointments, sad stories and millions of things that life has taken away, often mockingly. But despite these reasons Ove does not let that put him off and always moves forward.

Ove’s life begins to change

During this interesting story, Ove’s life will begin to change, thanks to a series of circumstances that neither he wanted nor expected. These circumstances will cause our dear old man to begin to take back the faith he had lost on humans.

Likewise, its neighbors begin to know the true Ove. The Ove who resides in his moved inner world. They will also learn that the neighborhood without him would be a duller, less supportive place. It would be a colder place and, albeit a lie, a lot less fun.

Ove’s story will make you laugh and cry at the same time

The way the Backman takes us and interweaves the narration of the current events along with Ove’s past (which allows us to understand why he is so) is very accurate. It is because of that excellent connection that we can efficiently connect with the history of Ove.

When you finish reading it, you want the story to continue

Have you ever read a novel and have loved his story so much that you do not want it to end? That is exactly what will happen to you with this novel. Backman has known how to leave us wanting more, to know more the history of Ove.

When you finish reading it, you will be left with that strange feeling of satisfaction having read a touching story; but at the same time with that feeling of good books: you want the story to continue and not end up that way.

Conclusion

A man named Ove is a simple and honest novel, does not sin of naiveté before the tensest moments of history. It teaches us that we should not judge people only by their appearances and disrespect the old grumpy solitary; which perhaps have a complicated and tragic history of the we do not realize and do not even want to understand.

It’s a very original novel; it has that touch and smell of unique work. Their language and grammar is very current and direct. Backman knew how to build a very well-done story, which does not have a single word missing. His work can read very easily, so that, as we mentioned earlier, it will sadden you to end so soon.

In addition, Beckman wants to make us teach the dangers of judging lightly, because it can become very dangerous and unfair to others. It is a review so we can assess the differences.

We are all different, although some of us seem the same in adopting the role that society imposes on us. We are all different in the end and we are not forced to change by the judgments of others. We all have a good side that we must strengthen and others try to discover.

 

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Milk and Honey Book Review: Rupi Kaur

Milk and honey is a combination of poetry and prose about survival. It is about the encounter of brutality, love, abuse, loss, and femininity and is categorized into four chapters which include the hurting, the loving, the breaking and the healing. In this book, Rupi Kaur, a spoken word poet and based in Toronto gives a voice to the constituents of the mind that are often quiet but need consideration. “This is the journey of persevering through poetry; this is the blood sweat tears of 21 years, my heart in your hands, this is the hurting, the loving, the breaking and the healing,” the speaker says as she opens up to readers.

Each chapter fulfills a distinct purpose, deals with a distinctive pain and heals a different heartache. Milk and honey take readers through a journey of the bitter moments in life and finds sweetness in them because there is sweetness in everywhere if you are willing to look.

The poetry begins with themes centered on sexual abuse and broken relationships, tough topics to tackle. The book portrays the childhood of a child who was raped and abandoned and the devastation it created. Kaur allows her emotions to flow freely as if the words are pouring out from her heart rather than her mind. She is displaying many opinions that have been pushed aside by society because “rape is too hard to talk about or too controversial” and “stop talking about your period because it is inappropriate” and “you are a woman, so you mean less.”

The hurting

The hurting is more than a physical ache because it penetrates deep into the heart of the victim and breaks their purity. What lingers is a sound that cries out for help, but no one seems to respond. It is the rawest part of the book. Its heavy content might throw some readers off as it deals with traumas like rape and the pain caused by an absent father. It is also centered on themes of abuse by family members and other men that Kaur has encountered in her life or stories she heard. The poems and prose in this segment are the most painful to read since Kaur does not sugarcoat these ordeals.

The loving

The loving change the tone because the poems become intimate and emotional. Kaur features sexual and sentimental pleasures shaped by love and the ability it has to render the soul utterly useless. Notwithstanding the shift in topic matter, Kaur controls her voice and keeps the rhythm of her poems short and straightforward.

The tone is much more sentimental and follows the progression of a relationship. Each of these poems is written with a lover in mind and a few of them like “I have seen you in my mother’s eyes when she tells me to marry the kind of man I would want to raise my son to be like. “deriving advice from Kaur’s mother.

The breaking and healing

The breaking and the healing detail the course of heartbreak to joy by conversing with a youthful audience who include a group of beloveds who have been rejected and broken for the initial time. The pain expressed is told with innocence and passion, the only way pain should be said.

The last chapter of the compilation encapsulates the essence of sovereignty and identity. The mouthpiece reassures readers to explore the radiance and beauty inside of them, to quit relying on the world and other individuals for validation.

Kaur writes, “You need to start a relationship with yourself before someone else,” highlighting the power to love ourselves that lies within us. Some may dispute this idea as cliché, but its originality and honesty are seen in the expression of Kaur’s independence, providing a new perspective on an old idea.

Conclusion

Milk and honey is an essential read for all regardless of whether you are a woman or not, and whether you can associate with each message or not. The reminder to acknowledge oneself and to embrace sensation is timeless. Even though these poems are sad, they are also very lifelike and applicable.

Trying to summarize the human experience is pointless because different people deal with pain and pleasure in different ways. Although other poets have displayed similar sentiments in poetry, Kaur comes about as close as a poet can get to recognizing and accepting the importance behind emotion, as well as why every individual needs more love, unlike other poets.

Such poems empower women to love themselves and to value who they are regardless of the turmoil they have experienced. This poem would be advised to anyone going through a breakup or just yearning for some comfort. Every woman needs to read this book because even if they cannot relate to it, it does relate to another woman or sister, and that is reason enough.

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Russell Brand : Recovery and Freedom From Addictions Book Review

Recovery and Freedom From Addictions

Are any unhealthy habits or attachments holding your life together? Are you unconsciously dependent on anything such as your phone, food, bad relationships, drugs or a job that doesn’t give satisfaction or fulfillment? Then you most likely are an addict.

Ingesting substances such as alcohol or engaging in activities such as gambling can be pleasurable. The frequent engagements in such elements or activities can become compulsive and interfere with regular responsibilities and interests, such as work, relationships, or health and eventually cause addiction. People with an addiction may not always be aware that their behavior is out of control and causing problems to themselves and others, but it’s easy for people around them to notice.

Introduction

Various forms of addiction that affect the lives of individuals all over the world include; stress, bad relationships, digital media, addiction to work, sugar addiction, sex, fame, drugs, caffeine, and alcohol. In the world we are living today, almost everyone has a form of addiction that they struggle with, with the aim of getting out of it. Russell Brand, a movie star, and comedian, however, addresses the issue in his book, ‘Recovery: Freedom from our addictions.’

With a unique mix of honesty, humor, and sympathy, Russell Brand, a movie star and comedian has struggled addictions of heroin, sex, alcohol, fame, alcohol, alcohol, and eBay. He narrates his own wild story and shares the advice and wisdom gained through his fourteen years of recovery he went through. He hopes to help addicts and their loved ones make the first steps into recovery from their addictions.

Recovering from addiction

Addiction recovery is a gradual process that requires full commitment and patience of an individual who should be willing and ready to gain freedom from the addiction. People in addiction just like Russell live in denial, and Russell Brand notes that the question is not why the addiction but the pain your addiction is masking, why you are running into the wrong job, wrong life and wrong person’s arms.

According to Russell, addiction takes different shapes and sizes thus indicating that the level of addiction is different for different people, therefore, the recovery process is a daily process filled with activities that cannot be the same. Some individuals may take longer in the recovery process than others depending on the level of addiction.

Through the book, Russell provides not only a recovery plan but an attempt to make sense of the ailing world thus significantly contributing to changing the lives of others by assisting them to achieve freedom from their addictions.

Russell has been through all the twelve-step fellowships; he started his own men’s group, he attends therapy regularly and a practiced yogi. Though he worked on this material as part of his comedy, he has never shared the tools that took him from addiction, which keep him clean and clear.

Russell notes that his material offers liberation from self-centeredness, a new perspective as well as freedom from the illusion of suffering for anyone willing to take the necessary steps. He also notes that his manual for self-realization comes not from a mountain but the mud and emphasizes that the qualification is not that he is better than anyone but worse.

This book is a real testimony and encouragement to people who are victims of any addictions by giving them hope. Realizing and acknowledging that one has an obsession that is affecting their life is one of the most significant steps towards recovery. While at some point most people recognize that they have an addiction and require help, making the ultimate decision to seek help and advice always seems a challenge. This is evidenced by the secretive behavior of Russell of fearing to share his problem with anyone, even to his colleagues who worked with him.

While it is common in this modern age, Russell points that addiction is a condition so epidemic, all-encompassing and ubiquitous and that many usually don’t know that they have it unless they are lucky enough to be an extreme case.

Conclusion

Russell Brand recovery process serves as a motivation to the many people suffering from addiction by giving them hope that all is not lost and that they can still pull themselves out of the obsession and achieve their freedom. The recovery process requires hope, patience, and determination as well as faith and strength as depicted by Russell Brand through his fourteen years before attaining his freedom.

People who have successfully managed to come out of their addiction should assist those who are still struggling to come out it. Addiction is not a disability; through dedication, patience and determination to the recovery process activities that you have to undergo, anyone ready and willing regardless of the level of addiction can come out of it and attain lifetime freedom.

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